How to Put a Toddler to Sleep

When Packo had his last immunization and check-up for this year yesterday, Dra. Leonila Dans reminded me for the nth time not to use my breasts as his pacifier.  She knew I'm guilty as charged. He is a comfort nurser while I find it most convenient if he just nurse till he falls asleep. It simply works for both of us.

However I know it's time for my son to fall asleep on his own. I need to take action, train him while it's still early and before a bad habit to form. Why bad?

• He's turning 2 in a month.
• Most children should sleep on their own at his age.
• He is biologically, emotionally, psychologically ready to fall asleep on his own.
• I am only teaching him to be dependent on me and me alone.
• It will have a psychological impact if he dependent too much on his primary caregiver  

I noticed that being a comfort nurser not only manifested in sleep but also in most things like everything! Which is not a good thing. I don't want to be a Momma's Boy! Plus, I gotta work!

I took action yesterday but I was only hopeful. Here are the things I did:

1. Since I don't want to eliminate breastfeeding in our routine, I only kept it in a minimum. How long and how frequent? He fed 4 times for 10 minutes max yesterday, night nursing was already included!
2. I talked and counseled him on what we're doing, what it is for and why.
3. I eliminated his afternoon nap.
4. When he signaled he wanted to nurse, I gave him food. This worked each time.
5. I let him play all day.

What else can you do?

1. Let other people from your household put your child to bed.
2. Make sure your child's primary needs (he's full, has a clean diaper, etc) before putting him to bed.
3. Read your child bedtime stories. Sing lullabies.
4. Create a bedtime routine.
5. Have a substitute Mama in the form of a pillow or teddy bear who will give cuddles and kisses. (You may include them in your stories.)
6. Be firm or consistent. But never be angry with a child who only wants to be with you when he sleeps.

What happened? 

• I noticed he understood what we're doing and what he's supposed to be doing.
• I let him nurse but only for 10 minutes.
• He cried each time I stopped him from nursing.
• I know he's trying to sleep on his own. 
• He kept waking up. He woke up twice last night.
• I finally nursed him, that was his 4th time, and finally he slept soundly.

He's now having his afternoon nap. Since he didn't have enough sleep last night, I know he's tired. And I took advantage of it. 

You know what I did? I hid from him. He kept looking for me until he got soo tired he finally slept on his own!

Yay! Well, good luck to me later.

No More Milk

Lately I've noticed that my body isn't producing as much milk as it used to. One reason is the lack of demand. In breastfeeding, the higher the demand, the higher the supply. And as your child grows, his nutritional needs diversify. His source of energy isn't found only in milk. It has to be supplemented with real food. His demand and supply of milk declined.

As I was putting my son to sleep (I breastfeed him till he go asleep), he couldn't get his sleeping position right. He kept on crying after a few suckles and kept on signaling to change breasts. We did that a lot of times and he got so frustrated because I felt he wasn't getting any milk.

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I know this is going to happen. I know one day he will not need anything from me directly and I'm getting really anxious about it. I enjoy breastfeeding him, this serves as our precious bonding moment. I'm afraid to lose that connection, that need for each other. 

On the other hand I feel quite happy because we're about to have another milestone. New routines, changes, transition and a clear sign that my little man's growing up.

*Oh, he tried a few sips of milk! Before, you couldn't get any white drink to his mouth. Nice start.

*I don't want to give him nipple bottles as he learned to drink directly from his cup. But how will I put him to sleep? Should I still breastfeed him? Or only at night?  

Share me your thoughts,

Mommy K